I can’t get any girl I want, but I can just get some not my type of girls, so I feel I’m so ugly. What should I do?
09.06.2025 00:09
Consider who you are attracted to. Are they only the extremely gorgeous, flawless girls? Are they the ones with the perfect figures, impeccably applied makeup, and glossy hair? Are the girls you want the ones that every single other guy wants??
If so, you're in for a rude awakening.
I don't think that anyone can always get their type of girl, 100% of the time. It's unrealistic. Even actors and models can't get anyone they want at any time, although they may have better luck than your typical guy.
Nobody is saying that you have to lower your standards and date someone you are not attracted to. That's not fair to you or to the girl, if you only date her because you're lonely and need sex from someone, anyone. But again, if you want the best, you have to be the best. The prettiest girls always have lots of options, so this is going to require hard work on your end, but it could be worth it.
At the end of the day, even if the girls you want are out of reach for a while, hitting the gym, staying well-groomed and getting a good education to get a well-paid job is never a waste of time and effort.
What do you have to offer them, besides the obvious? They can literally get any guy they want, so why would they choose you over, say, the star quarterback of the football team or the president of the student council? If you want the best, you have to be the best yourself. Saying to yourself, But I deserve a hot, sexy chick! will only get you so far.
The fact that some girls are attracted to you, even if they're not particularly your type, suggests that you are not ugly, even if you don't find them attractive yourself.